What is to “grieve” and to “quench” the Spirit of God?
The allowance of flesh in the least degree in a Christian is to grieve the Spirit of God, by which he has been sealed until the day of redemption (Eph. 4: 30). What a motive to holiness is the fact, true of every believer, that the Holy Spirit of God dwells in him! He may, alas, grieve Him in many ways. Rejection of light which God has given; worldliness; in fact everything that has not Christ for its motive and object must grieve God’s Spirit, and hinder our growth and communion.
To quench the Spirit (1 Thess. 5: 19), is to hinder His free action in the assembly, (see vs 12, 20, 21). While there are special permanent gifts in the Church (Eph. 4: 11) there are also the “joints and bands”, which work effectually in the measure of every part, and by which the body of Christ increases. If they are hindered in true spiritual service, a single word for instance, the Sprit of God is quenched.
There are dangers to be avoided on both sides. On one side the danger is, that because there is liberty “that all may learn and all may be comforted”, there may be the undervaluing of gift. On the other, there is the danger of quenching the spirit in the various helps, joints, and bands by which nourishment is ministered in the body of Christ, by putting special ministry in the place of the free action of the Holy Ghost in the members of Christ; both are to be cherished, and the most spiritual are those who will value all that God has given.